Can Males talk with Females at study or work?

Jithender, 26th January 2012

Hare Krishna!

Please accept my humble obeisances prabhujis and matajis

My doubt is whether we can speak to girls in our class like we speak to boys?

your small servant,

Jithender D

Mahabhagavat Das SDA, 27th January 2012

Hare Krishna JIthender,

Please accept my humble obeisances.

All glories to Srila Gurudeva.

All glories to Srila Prabhupada.

Every living entity is a spirit soul, the body is only an outer covering. That is the spiritual understanding. So, girl and boy, on the spiritual platform they are equal.

However, we are not completely purified of material contamination yet, so we need to follow the Vaishnava etiquette, which is to see every girl, woman, regardless of age, as one’s own mother. If someone is married, then that one lady is one’s wife, but for us devotees, even one’s own wife is a most respectable personality, being a Vaishnavi, and serving Krishna.

In fact, even pure devotees such as my spiritual master Srila Sankarshan Das Adhikari, they follow these regulations and do not meet with any girl/woman in private, just to lead by personal example.

Srila Prabhupada describes an example… a girl/woman is like fire, and a boy/man is like butter. If you put fire close to butter, then the butter will melt in due course of time.

In Vedic culture, unmarried boys and girls do not directly interact with each other at all.

However, in modern circumstances this is difficult because of the “co-education” policies. This has caused lots of problems actually, the boys are becoming weaker and dull-headed, and cannot control their senses, and the girls are losing their main asset which is their chastity, and putting themselves into so much difficulty.

My personal recommendation for you is:

1. Don’t speak to a girl alone or in private – for study purposes, only interact in groups, don’t even write a private email to any girl, cc a friend. Don’t be casual or overly friendly, just professional.

2. Don’t get close or familiar to any girl, restrict your interactions as required for studies / projects, and no more.

3. Do not participate in any activities where there is inappropriate mixing of girls and boys, such as cinemas, clubs, bars, etc.

In student life, live as though you are a Brahmachari, and in fact you are technically a Brahmachari. If you will carefully follow this, your intelligence will increase, and you will become a strong powerful man of good character, an asset to your family, present and future.

If you have any specific question, please feel free to ask, but don’t disclose excessive personal details on this forum.


Mahabhagavat Das

Jithender, 27th January 2012

Thank you very much for the reply prabhu


Ankit Vora, 28th January 2012

Hare Krishna Mahabhagavat prabhu

Thank you for giving such a detailed answer.

Your Servant

Ankit Vora

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